Comments on: Introspection http://ianselvarajah.com/2007/01/introspection.html/ Making the world a happier place one blog post at a time... Mon, 01 Feb 2010 09:08:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: the1truecoolguy http://ianselvarajah.com/2007/01/introspection.html/comment-page-1/#comment-103 the1truecoolguy Wed, 31 Jan 2007 05:41:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2007/01/introspection/#comment-103 Damon - Not sure if I agree... I think you can be successful and still arrogant. If you're not successful, then I would say you're pretentious! Which, in my mind, is probably worse than being arrogant. Although, based on L-E's comment below, perhaps my definition of arrogance is wrong! :)<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />RD - I completely agree. Actually, this was the comment I left on Heather's blog: <em>"... I've also found that most people who mistake confidence for arrogance are often people who are insecure themselves. I find the confidence/arrogance line pretty tricky sometimes because I think a big part of it depends on the perception of the other person."</em><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Darwin - I like your definition of confidence vs. arrogance. Although, we come back to the point that it's all a question of one person's perception.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />L-E - It was good seeing you the other day, and we managed to discuss this topic in person! :) That waitress had a pretty interesting definition of arrogance as well! lol<br /><br /><em>"Taking the space that is yours is not arrogance."</em><br /><br />I guess this now becomes a question of <b>how</b> you take up that space. In essence, what would you call someone who is [fairly] taking up their space, but is being a jerk about it? Damon – Not sure if I agree… I think you can be successful and still arrogant. If you’re not successful, then I would say you’re pretentious! Which, in my mind, is probably worse than being arrogant. Although, based on L-E’s comment below, perhaps my definition of arrogance is wrong! :)

RD – I completely agree. Actually, this was the comment I left on Heather’s blog: “… I’ve also found that most people who mistake confidence for arrogance are often people who are insecure themselves. I find the confidence/arrogance line pretty tricky sometimes because I think a big part of it depends on the perception of the other person.”

Darwin – I like your definition of confidence vs. arrogance. Although, we come back to the point that it’s all a question of one person’s perception.

L-E – It was good seeing you the other day, and we managed to discuss this topic in person! :) That waitress had a pretty interesting definition of arrogance as well! lol

“Taking the space that is yours is not arrogance.”

I guess this now becomes a question of how you take up that space. In essence, what would you call someone who is [fairly] taking up their space, but is being a jerk about it?

]]> By: Louis-Eric http://ianselvarajah.com/2007/01/introspection.html/comment-page-1/#comment-102 Louis-Eric Mon, 29 Jan 2007 15:43:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2007/01/introspection/#comment-102 Arrogance is the quality borne out of arrogating, or making an undue claim to something. Taking the space that is yours is not arrogance. It's confidence. That being said, arrogance is more often than not an external judgment, rather than an internally-mediated one, and in my mind usually the product of either jealousy or a partial understanding of others towards you. Arrogance is the quality borne out of arrogating, or making an undue claim to something. Taking the space that is yours is not arrogance. It’s confidence. That being said, arrogance is more often than not an external judgment, rather than an internally-mediated one, and in my mind usually the product of either jealousy or a partial understanding of others towards you.

]]> By: Darwin http://ianselvarajah.com/2007/01/introspection.html/comment-page-1/#comment-101 Darwin Fri, 26 Jan 2007 09:06:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2007/01/introspection/#comment-101 Confidence is quiet and self-assured, arrogance is loud and self-asserting. Confidence already has the approval arrogance is trying desperately to gain. Not always the case but on first impressions, that's how I tend to sum people up. Confidence is quiet and self-assured, arrogance is loud and self-asserting. Confidence already has the approval arrogance is trying desperately to gain. Not always the case but on first impressions, that’s how I tend to sum people up.

]]> By: Rhythmic Diaspora http://ianselvarajah.com/2007/01/introspection.html/comment-page-1/#comment-100 Rhythmic Diaspora Fri, 26 Jan 2007 08:00:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2007/01/introspection/#comment-100 An interesting topic - I think that the difference is in the eye of the beholder, that what, to one person appears as confidence, may often look like arrogance to another. I'll be interested to read your thoughts Ian An interesting topic – I think that the difference is in the eye of the beholder, that what, to one person appears as confidence, may often look like arrogance to another. I’ll be interested to read your thoughts Ian

]]> By: damon z http://ianselvarajah.com/2007/01/introspection.html/comment-page-1/#comment-99 damon z Fri, 26 Jan 2007 04:54:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2007/01/introspection/#comment-99 Nice post. I think the difference between arrogance and confidence is success.<br />Michael Jordan and Larry Bird talked a whole lot of trash on the basketball court. Yet no one called them arrogant because they were just that good. On the other hand, Terrell Owens... Nice post. I think the difference between arrogance and confidence is success.
Michael Jordan and Larry Bird talked a whole lot of trash on the basketball court. Yet no one called them arrogant because they were just that good. On the other hand, Terrell Owens…

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