Comments on: Confidence vs. Arrogance

By: My Ideal Woman – 4 Years Later « Changing Lives

My Ideal Woman – 4 Years Later « Changing Lives — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 21:43:58 +0000

[...] in mind at the same time… being aware of one’s strengths and weaknesses… having confidence and self-respect… having a sense of humor and not sweating the small stuff… getting [...]

By: karim

karim — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 10:42:40 +0000

Very thoughtfull post on confidence .It should be very much helpfull

Thanks,
Karim - Creating Power

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 16:27:00 +0000

Interesting discussion – What about do you think about confidence vs arrogance when it comes to dating?

http://sophiasparx.blogspot.com/ has a discussion on that.

By: Stevie B

Stevie B — Wed, 14 Feb 2007 18:15:00 +0000

I have to definitely agree with the fellow you met on your trip about the part of ''you don't have to say a word. Trust me, people will just know''. I think most people will consider that; one as crossed the ''arrogance'' line when he feels the need to brag about himself or is knowledge. There is a great article about Steve Nash in the 2006 Toro's sports edition that touches upon this same subject. He mentions' the fact that in the NBA most players are viewed as arrogant given their characteristics (salary, social status, achievements) and also due to the very nature of the game. He goes on by positioning himself as a non-arrogant player in an arrogant player environment. He then raises the following question: ''Why am I humble? Is it really because I am or is it just because I am not confident enough to brag about my achievements''.

I think a parallel can be made with publicity (word-of-mouth) VS. Advertisement, were one is seen as more intrusive and arrogant (advertisement) and the other (W-o-m) is regarded as being more genuine given that others do it for you. I think Blogs are also reinforcing this very well.

So I think slowly the world is become more humble…or hypocrite enough to seem more humble…

Stevie B

p.s. Shout-outs to Dom and Ian.I’m so gangsta with my shout-outs

By: Durga

Durga — Wed, 14 Feb 2007 17:07:00 +0000

I’d liek to think I’m confident and friendly.
People haven’t said that I come across arrogant. But I have had a few people say that they fear I privately judge their lifestyle due to my religions convictions.
You can’t win with everyone.

I think u come across as confident, intelligent and friendly Ian.

By: Damon Z

Damon Z — Wed, 14 Feb 2007 03:50:00 +0000

Preaching for humbleness with the screen name Lady Divine. Now that’s funny

By: Damon Z

Damon Z — Wed, 14 Feb 2007 03:44:00 +0000

Arrogance is a sin but the kind of sin that can make you rich here in the U.S. I struggled with it from a cultural standpoint because I came from a place where you did not brag even if you were good…

Nevertheless, my experience has taught me that an overdose of humility gets you kind words, an overdose of confidence gets you noticed. You more or less have to constantly sell yourself out here because things are so competitive.

So be arrogant and ready to back it up

By: Lady divine

Lady divine — Tue, 13 Feb 2007 04:06:58 +0000

i went thru that site.. it sure did have some good stuff for a great laugh!:-)

My level of confidence certainly varies with my moods and all..but arrogance, now that doesn’t happen too often…

as for being humble, we are to judge who we are first..so i know i’m a humble person..but there are times it’s gets kicked off too.. but it’s not that bad..

By: Cyara

Cyara — Fri, 09 Feb 2007 15:38:41 +0000

I would definitely say it’s in the eye of the beholder. I wouldn’t have always said so, but people will think whatever they want to think about you regardless of reality. Since I used to be so shy I often got mistaken for a snob: not true, but it was easier for others to write me off that way than give me the benefit of the doubt. Same story with your confidence, rather than accepting it for what it is, people decide to write you off as cocky so they don’t have to give you any benefit.

Which brings us to the real question here: why are we all so insecure that we need to assume bad things about others in order to feel better about ourselves? I truly believe this is what it comes down to. Or is it just me?

By: Domenick Bartuccio

Domenick Bartuccio — Wed, 07 Feb 2007 04:48:11 +0000

I'm not pretentious or arrogant.

I am extremely humble.

There is no one in the world more humble than me. Anyone who says they are more humble are lying.

YOU HEAR ME! I AM THE MOST HUMBLE PERSON OF ALL TIME!!!