As yet another weekend approaches, I’d like to get some feedback about this business of giving out phone numbers… There have been a few mornings where I’ve woken up and found a couple of phone numbers in my pockets. I would quickly reach over for my camera and see if there were any pictures of women that I could associate to the phone number. In the end, I never called. There have been other times where a girl has given me her number, I did remember her, but I still didn’t call. When I tell this to some of my female friends they’re like: “Oh my God! You’re one of those guys who doesn’t call!?! How do you know she’s not waiting for your call?!?” Ummm…I’m pretty sure she’s not. Here’s why I don’t call: 1) Many girls give their numbers out because they feel bad, not because they’re actually interested. 2) Many girls give their number to several guys in a given night. 3) Fine, I admit it. Sometimes I’ll get the number for kicks without being interested either.
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what I’m doing wrong? Do you give your number because you’re too polite to say “I’m not interested!!”? Do you give your number to lots of people in a given night? What do you expect someone to say when they call? “Hi, I’m that random person you met while you were out last night!”?
i think you shouldn’t worry about it, unless you’re really really hot. in which case, she’s prob waiting for that call. if you’re not, its prob a wrong number anyway
I don’t give out my number. Most of the time I think it’s more polite and humane to just say “sorry, I’m not really interested but it was nice meeting you” and leaving it at that!
well.. I never give out numbers for the sake of it… or to be polite…
If i do give, then I’ll definitely be expecting a call..coz for me to give my number, it would mean something..:D
and well… if you get a number, it’s upto you to decide to call or not..
So i don’t think what you’re doing is wrong..:)
it ain’t like u r committing a crime or anything..:D
I’m with Darwin!
Unless she’s pining for you constantly over you not phoning (in which case alarm bells should start ringing), I don’t think you should worry about it too much if you don’t call!
I give out my phone number all the time, no one calls though.
@T – Ha ha thanks! I think I’m OK looking, definitely far from “really really hot” though, so I think I’m safe!
As to giving out wrong numbers if the guy isn’t “really really hot”, that’s just wrong! 
@Darwin – Yup, I’m sure in the end, a response like that is more appreciated!!
@LD – “coz for me to give my number, it would mean something..” It would seem that in my experience (and in this conversation) this seems to be more of an exception than a normality!
You’re right, not calling isn’t a crime, just checking if people would think it’s rude and/or mean!
@Scrumpulicious – Oh yes, if a girl you just met is “pining for you constantly over you not phoning” this is definitely creepy and something to watch out for!!
@RD – LOL! Now that I think about it, that’s happened to me as well and I wasn’t offended at all! I guess all is fair in love and phone numbers…
if you dont call back, how can you be sure you had their real numbers in the first place? lol
I dont mind saying “not interested” most of the time, but if someone is really bugging me, I just give a fake number to get them off my back. not that anyone would do that to you…
Elissa – Nice to hear from you!!
You make an excellent point. Thing is that I never go for the hard sell, so [I'm pretty sure] I’m not bugging anyone enough to give me a fake number! lol 
Then again, I’ll usually show them their number on my cell phone, dial it (to give them a missed call) and say: “There, now you can call me as well!”.
This is something I picked up in Europe because whenever I’d give my number, my phone would ring. I remember the first time I was like: “Oh, sorry, someone’s calling me!”
I’m also glad that you’re able to say you’re not interested!! I guess maybe I should try calling back every once in a while…
I guess if you and random girl had a real good convo and you guys clicked and then she gave you her number and you didn’t call, that would be slack.. in which case the lady pining for you (the nice guy she connected with) is not that creepy..
BM – Fair enough…I think I might have only done that once or twice. I suppose I didn’t click with them enough to call. In any case, most girls I meet when I’m out aren’t the “call back the next day”-types!
very true about the “call back” comment. they do that here in the uk all the time. quite useful though…
but this raises another point. since you do the callback, the ladies in question should have your number. they could always call you if the “connection” was that strong.. in which case, you have nothing to feel bad about
El – You’re absolutely right!! THEY could be calling ME if they really wanted!
Aaah Ian!!!! Of course it’s wrong!!! You should call back! Just because there are some girls who do give there number because there are too polite or give it away to several men on the same night doesn’t mean that
1) We all do the same
2) you will not end up hurting someone’s feeling
3) Miss on something nice.
I really believe that you can’t know in a club if the person is interesting or not (there’s no way you can have a conversation in there). At times you can’t even be sure if the person is attractive or not, (f**king light).
Personnally, yeah it happened to me to give my number because the guy was very very pushy but in the end I’m very happy I did because he happened to be a very good friend now.
The times, they didn’t call back, I don’t know if hurt is the word (though it have been once) but I was certainly annoyed! Why would someone fight for your number and don’t even call back! That’s so frustating!
A simple “Salut on s’est rencontré tel jour, tu veux prendre un café?” would be perfect!
Kiss
Vanessa
Vanessa – Alright, I’ll try keep that in mind the next time I’m out and I get a phone number!
“I really believe that you can’t know in a club if the person is interesting or not (there’s no way you can have a conversation in there).”
Fair enough, I guess the trouble is that both men and woman don’t take club meetings seriously. Most women have this idea that anyone they meet in a bar/club is going to be a sleazebag. Now, this is true 90% of the time, but as I mentioned, maybe we should all give everyone a fair chance regardless of where we meet!