Comments on: Getting Phone Numbers and Not Calling http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/04/getting-phone-numbers-and-not-calling.html/ Making the world a happier place one blog post at a time... Fri, 27 Apr 2012 08:27:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Ian Selvarajah http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/04/getting-phone-numbers-and-not-calling.html/comment-page-1/#comment-403 Ian Selvarajah Fri, 25 Apr 2008 20:20:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/04/getting-phone-numbers-and-not-calling/#comment-403 Vanessa - Alright, I'll try keep that in mind the next time I'm out and I get a phone number! :)<br/><br/><i>"I really believe that you can't know in a club if the person is interesting or not (there's no way you can have a conversation in there)."</i><br/><br/>Fair enough, I guess the trouble is that both men and woman don't take club meetings seriously. Most women have this idea that anyone they meet in a bar/club is going to be a sleazebag. Now, this is true 90% of the time, but as I mentioned, maybe we should all give everyone a fair chance regardless of where we meet! Vanessa – Alright, I’ll try keep that in mind the next time I’m out and I get a phone number! :)

“I really believe that you can’t know in a club if the person is interesting or not (there’s no way you can have a conversation in there).”

Fair enough, I guess the trouble is that both men and woman don’t take club meetings seriously. Most women have this idea that anyone they meet in a bar/club is going to be a sleazebag. Now, this is true 90% of the time, but as I mentioned, maybe we should all give everyone a fair chance regardless of where we meet!

]]> By: Vanessa via FB http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/04/getting-phone-numbers-and-not-calling.html/comment-page-1/#comment-402 Vanessa via FB Fri, 25 Apr 2008 20:17:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/04/getting-phone-numbers-and-not-calling/#comment-402 Aaah Ian!!!! Of course it's wrong!!! You should call back! Just because there are some girls who do give there number because there are too polite or give it away to several men on the same night doesn't mean that<br/>1) We all do the same<br/>2) you will not end up hurting someone's feeling<br/>3) Miss on something nice.<br/><br/>I really believe that you can't know in a club if the person is interesting or not (there's no way you can have a conversation in there). At times you can't even be sure if the person is attractive or not, (f**king light).<br/><br/>Personnally, yeah it happened to me to give my number because the guy was very very pushy but in the end I'm very happy I did because he happened to be a very good friend now.<br/><br/>The times, they didn't call back, I don't know if hurt is the word (though it have been once) but I was certainly annoyed! Why would someone fight for your number and don't even call back! That's so frustating!<br/><br/>A simple "Salut on s'est rencontré tel jour, tu veux prendre un café?" would be perfect!<br/><br/>Kiss<br/><br/>Vanessa Aaah Ian!!!! Of course it’s wrong!!! You should call back! Just because there are some girls who do give there number because there are too polite or give it away to several men on the same night doesn’t mean that
1) We all do the same
2) you will not end up hurting someone’s feeling
3) Miss on something nice.

I really believe that you can’t know in a club if the person is interesting or not (there’s no way you can have a conversation in there). At times you can’t even be sure if the person is attractive or not, (f**king light).

Personnally, yeah it happened to me to give my number because the guy was very very pushy but in the end I’m very happy I did because he happened to be a very good friend now.

The times, they didn’t call back, I don’t know if hurt is the word (though it have been once) but I was certainly annoyed! Why would someone fight for your number and don’t even call back! That’s so frustating!

A simple “Salut on s’est rencontré tel jour, tu veux prendre un café?” would be perfect!

Kiss

Vanessa

]]> By: Ian Selvarajah http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/04/getting-phone-numbers-and-not-calling.html/comment-page-1/#comment-401 Ian Selvarajah Fri, 11 Apr 2008 14:34:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/04/getting-phone-numbers-and-not-calling/#comment-401 El - You're absolutely right!! THEY could be calling ME if they really wanted! :) El – You’re absolutely right!! THEY could be calling ME if they really wanted! :)

]]> By: Elissa http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/04/getting-phone-numbers-and-not-calling.html/comment-page-1/#comment-400 Elissa Thu, 10 Apr 2008 18:46:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/04/getting-phone-numbers-and-not-calling/#comment-400 very true about the "call back" comment. they do that here in the uk all the time. quite useful though...<br/><br/>but this raises another point. since you do the callback, the ladies in question should have your number. they could always call you if the "connection" was that strong.. in which case, you have nothing to feel bad about :) very true about the “call back” comment. they do that here in the uk all the time. quite useful though…

but this raises another point. since you do the callback, the ladies in question should have your number. they could always call you if the “connection” was that strong.. in which case, you have nothing to feel bad about :)

]]> By: Ian Selvarajah http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/04/getting-phone-numbers-and-not-calling.html/comment-page-1/#comment-399 Ian Selvarajah Sat, 05 Apr 2008 22:37:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/04/getting-phone-numbers-and-not-calling/#comment-399 BM - Fair enough...I think I might have only done that once or twice. I suppose I didn't click with them enough to call. In any case, most girls I meet when I'm out aren't the "call back the next day"-types! :) BM – Fair enough…I think I might have only done that once or twice. I suppose I didn’t click with them enough to call. In any case, most girls I meet when I’m out aren’t the “call back the next day”-types! :)

]]> By: BM http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/04/getting-phone-numbers-and-not-calling.html/comment-page-1/#comment-398 BM Sat, 05 Apr 2008 19:07:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/04/getting-phone-numbers-and-not-calling/#comment-398 I guess if you and random girl had a real good convo and you guys clicked and then she gave you her number and you didn't call, that would be slack.. in which case the lady pining for you (the nice guy she connected with) is not that creepy.. I guess if you and random girl had a real good convo and you guys clicked and then she gave you her number and you didn’t call, that would be slack.. in which case the lady pining for you (the nice guy she connected with) is not that creepy..

]]> By: Ian Selvarajah http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/04/getting-phone-numbers-and-not-calling.html/comment-page-1/#comment-397 Ian Selvarajah Sat, 05 Apr 2008 16:57:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/04/getting-phone-numbers-and-not-calling/#comment-397 Elissa - Nice to hear from you!! :) You make an excellent point. Thing is that I never go for the hard sell, so [I'm pretty sure] I'm not bugging anyone enough to give me a fake number! lol :)<br/><br/>Then again, I'll usually show them their number on my cell phone, dial it (to give them a missed call) and say: <i>"There, now you can call me as well!"</i>.<br/><br/>This is something I picked up in Europe because whenever I'd give my number, my phone would ring. I remember the first time I was like: <i>"Oh, sorry, someone's calling me!"</i><br/><br/>I'm also glad that you're able to say you're not interested!! I guess maybe I should try calling back every once in a while... Elissa – Nice to hear from you!! :) You make an excellent point. Thing is that I never go for the hard sell, so [I'm pretty sure] I’m not bugging anyone enough to give me a fake number! lol :)

Then again, I’ll usually show them their number on my cell phone, dial it (to give them a missed call) and say: “There, now you can call me as well!”.

This is something I picked up in Europe because whenever I’d give my number, my phone would ring. I remember the first time I was like: “Oh, sorry, someone’s calling me!”

I’m also glad that you’re able to say you’re not interested!! I guess maybe I should try calling back every once in a while…

]]> By: Elissa http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/04/getting-phone-numbers-and-not-calling.html/comment-page-1/#comment-396 Elissa Sat, 05 Apr 2008 09:00:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/04/getting-phone-numbers-and-not-calling/#comment-396 if you dont call back, how can you be sure you had their real numbers in the first place? lol<br/><br/>I dont mind saying "not interested" most of the time, but if someone is really bugging me, I just give a fake number to get them off my back. not that anyone would do that to you... :) if you dont call back, how can you be sure you had their real numbers in the first place? lol

I dont mind saying “not interested” most of the time, but if someone is really bugging me, I just give a fake number to get them off my back. not that anyone would do that to you… :)

]]> By: Ian Selvarajah http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/04/getting-phone-numbers-and-not-calling.html/comment-page-1/#comment-395 Ian Selvarajah Fri, 04 Apr 2008 11:08:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/04/getting-phone-numbers-and-not-calling/#comment-395 @T - Ha ha thanks! I think I'm OK looking, definitely far from <i>"really really hot"</i> though, so I think I'm safe! :) As to giving out wrong numbers if the guy isn't <i>"really really hot"</i>, that's just wrong! :P<br/><br/><br/><br/><br/><br/>@Darwin - Yup, I'm sure in the end, a response like that is more appreciated!! <br/><br/><br/><br/><br/><br/>@LD - <i>"coz for me to give my number, it would mean something.."</i> It would seem that in my experience (and in this conversation) this seems to be more of an exception than a normality! :) You're right, not calling isn't a crime, just checking if people would think it's rude and/or mean!<br/><br/><br/><br/><br/><br/>@Scrumpulicious - Oh yes, if a girl you just met is <i>"pining for you constantly over you not phoning"</i> this is definitely creepy and something to watch out for!!<br/><br/><br/><br/><br/><br/>@RD - LOL! Now that I think about it, that's happened to me as well and I wasn't offended at all! I guess all is fair in love and phone numbers... @T – Ha ha thanks! I think I’m OK looking, definitely far from “really really hot” though, so I think I’m safe! :) As to giving out wrong numbers if the guy isn’t “really really hot”, that’s just wrong! :P

@Darwin – Yup, I’m sure in the end, a response like that is more appreciated!!

@LD – “coz for me to give my number, it would mean something..” It would seem that in my experience (and in this conversation) this seems to be more of an exception than a normality! :) You’re right, not calling isn’t a crime, just checking if people would think it’s rude and/or mean!

@Scrumpulicious – Oh yes, if a girl you just met is “pining for you constantly over you not phoning” this is definitely creepy and something to watch out for!!

@RD – LOL! Now that I think about it, that’s happened to me as well and I wasn’t offended at all! I guess all is fair in love and phone numbers…

]]> By: Rhythmic Diaspora http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/04/getting-phone-numbers-and-not-calling.html/comment-page-1/#comment-394 Rhythmic Diaspora Fri, 04 Apr 2008 10:48:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/04/getting-phone-numbers-and-not-calling/#comment-394 I give out my phone number all the time, no one calls though. I give out my phone number all the time, no one calls though.

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