Comments on: Looking at Ring Fingers and Boobs http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/04/looking-at-ring-fingers-and-boobs.html/ Making the world a happier place one blog post at a time... Mon, 01 Feb 2010 09:08:07 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: liz http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/04/looking-at-ring-fingers-and-boobs.html/comment-page-1/#comment-346 liz Fri, 19 Sep 2008 17:55:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/04/looking-at-ring-fingers-and-boobs/#comment-346 Hey Ian! I saw a post on fb that led me to your blog.<br/><br/>Since I have been moving around a lot, when I meet people its usually people I don't know, and I tend to feel tense when talking to a guy until the subject of whether I'm attached comes up. Noticing that someone checked out my ring finger and somehow acknowledged that there is a ring there (usually via some kind of unconscious body language) puts me much more at ease. I just wanna be friends, ya know? <br/><br/>But how does one get across that message in a first meeting without the guy feeling a little shot down...and I think the answer is checking for a ring. So, do it, do it, do it! I dont think its rude, and can actually be a relief...everyone knows where they stand. Hey Ian! I saw a post on fb that led me to your blog.

Since I have been moving around a lot, when I meet people its usually people I don’t know, and I tend to feel tense when talking to a guy until the subject of whether I’m attached comes up. Noticing that someone checked out my ring finger and somehow acknowledged that there is a ring there (usually via some kind of unconscious body language) puts me much more at ease. I just wanna be friends, ya know?

But how does one get across that message in a first meeting without the guy feeling a little shot down…and I think the answer is checking for a ring. So, do it, do it, do it! I dont think its rude, and can actually be a relief…everyone knows where they stand.

]]> By: Daphne http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/04/looking-at-ring-fingers-and-boobs.html/comment-page-1/#comment-330 Daphne Mon, 11 Aug 2008 18:23:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/04/looking-at-ring-fingers-and-boobs/#comment-330 I wouldn't think it's rude if someone openly checked out my ring finger. It's better than hitting on me, totally oblivious to the sparkly bands on my finger. I actually had a friend of a friend hit on me at a baseball game <b>*with my husband sitting right next to me.*</b> It wasn't until our mutual friend said something casually about our wedding that the guy finaly realized he was barking up the wrong tree. I wouldn’t think it’s rude if someone openly checked out my ring finger. It’s better than hitting on me, totally oblivious to the sparkly bands on my finger. I actually had a friend of a friend hit on me at a baseball game *with my husband sitting right next to me.* It wasn’t until our mutual friend said something casually about our wedding that the guy finaly realized he was barking up the wrong tree.

]]> By: Ian Selvarajah http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/04/looking-at-ring-fingers-and-boobs.html/comment-page-1/#comment-308 Ian Selvarajah Tue, 20 May 2008 02:48:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/04/looking-at-ring-fingers-and-boobs/#comment-308 Amanda - LOL @ <i>"Respect the rings!!!"</i><br/><br/>Unfortunately, it's my understanding that people who are engaged/married come across as a bigger challenge, so they tend to be hit on more. <br/><br/>No worries, I respect the rings... although I've been in a couple of situations where the person wearing the ring didn't seem to respect it!! Amanda – LOL @ “Respect the rings!!!”

Unfortunately, it’s my understanding that people who are engaged/married come across as a bigger challenge, so they tend to be hit on more.

No worries, I respect the rings… although I’ve been in a couple of situations where the person wearing the ring didn’t seem to respect it!!

]]> By: Amanda Holt Fraser http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/04/looking-at-ring-fingers-and-boobs.html/comment-page-1/#comment-307 Amanda Holt Fraser Wed, 14 May 2008 14:36:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/04/looking-at-ring-fingers-and-boobs/#comment-307 I think that it's fine to blatantly check out the ring finger - as long as this prompts you to some degree of respect! My husband now claims to be hit on more and more at the office since he got married, it's like he's been test driven and got a good consumer report and now they want him! Respect the rings!!! <br/><br/>Boobs - if you got em, then you just get used to people looking at them! As rude as that can be... I think that it’s fine to blatantly check out the ring finger – as long as this prompts you to some degree of respect! My husband now claims to be hit on more and more at the office since he got married, it’s like he’s been test driven and got a good consumer report and now they want him! Respect the rings!!!

Boobs – if you got em, then you just get used to people looking at them! As rude as that can be…

]]> By: Ian Selvarajah http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/04/looking-at-ring-fingers-and-boobs.html/comment-page-1/#comment-580 Ian Selvarajah Fri, 25 Apr 2008 20:34:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/04/looking-at-ring-fingers-and-boobs/#comment-580 <b>Vanessa</b> - I didn't think checking ring fingers was a big deal, but based on all the comments, I've learned that I need to be subtle about looking now!<br/><br/><i>"...or he was just lying-cheating-son-of-a-bitch!"</i><br/><br/>HA HA HA HA HA This was the funniest thing I read all day!!! Thanks for that! :)<br/><br/><br/><br/><br/><br/><br/><br/><b>Queenie</b> - That's what I'm saying, aunt, baby-sitter, pushing a baby carriage or not, it's just a question of curiosity! :) <br/><br/>It's nice that it doesn't bother you, but you do notice people looking, so it's safe to assume the other women notice too! Vanessa – I didn’t think checking ring fingers was a big deal, but based on all the comments, I’ve learned that I need to be subtle about looking now!

“…or he was just lying-cheating-son-of-a-bitch!”

HA HA HA HA HA This was the funniest thing I read all day!!! Thanks for that! :)

Queenie – That’s what I’m saying, aunt, baby-sitter, pushing a baby carriage or not, it’s just a question of curiosity! :)

It’s nice that it doesn’t bother you, but you do notice people looking, so it’s safe to assume the other women notice too!

]]> By: Queenie http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/04/looking-at-ring-fingers-and-boobs.html/comment-page-1/#comment-575 Queenie Fri, 25 Apr 2008 14:09:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/04/looking-at-ring-fingers-and-boobs/#comment-575 lol Hilarious but true! I totally catch guys checking out my ring finger. I even notice them TRYING to be subtle! All this cracks me up inside...What's funny is that even when I'm pushing my baby in her stroller, I still notice guys checking my left hand out...even though I'm not waving it around like a "spastic monkey" lol..I guess they're wondering if I'm the aunt or baby sitter, or perhaps just admiring the ring. lol It doesn't bother me! It's all good... :) lol Hilarious but true! I totally catch guys checking out my ring finger. I even notice them TRYING to be subtle! All this cracks me up inside…What’s funny is that even when I’m pushing my baby in her stroller, I still notice guys checking my left hand out…even though I’m not waving it around like a “spastic monkey” lol..I guess they’re wondering if I’m the aunt or baby sitter, or perhaps just admiring the ring. lol It doesn’t bother me! It’s all good… :)

]]> By: Vanessa http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/04/looking-at-ring-fingers-and-boobs.html/comment-page-1/#comment-574 Vanessa Fri, 25 Apr 2008 07:34:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/04/looking-at-ring-fingers-and-boobs/#comment-574 Yeah I think everyone should be subtle when it comes to CHECKING out. May it ring, boobs, ass, etc....<br/><br/>However, concerning the ring or rather the absence of ring, it is not a 100% sign of being single nowadays as more and more people live together without even considering getting married. <br/><br/>In the summer, 2 years ago I was having a chat with a man and I found he didn't have a ring but he had a white mark where the ring was supposed to be (suntan). 2 options: either he was recently getting a divorce or he was just lying-cheating-son-of-a-bitch! Any other suggestion?<br/><br/>That was just a rather unrelated (but not totally) story...<br/><br/>Bisous<br/><br/>Vanessa Yeah I think everyone should be subtle when it comes to CHECKING out. May it ring, boobs, ass, etc….

However, concerning the ring or rather the absence of ring, it is not a 100% sign of being single nowadays as more and more people live together without even considering getting married.

In the summer, 2 years ago I was having a chat with a man and I found he didn’t have a ring but he had a white mark where the ring was supposed to be (suntan). 2 options: either he was recently getting a divorce or he was just lying-cheating-son-of-a-bitch! Any other suggestion?

That was just a rather unrelated (but not totally) story…

Bisous

Vanessa

]]> By: Ian Selvarajah http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/04/looking-at-ring-fingers-and-boobs.html/comment-page-1/#comment-573 Ian Selvarajah Thu, 24 Apr 2008 18:22:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/04/looking-at-ring-fingers-and-boobs/#comment-573 <b>BM</b> - Yup, so just as I figured, it's probably wise to be subtle about it. Unless, of course, the ring is huge and you're about to make a comment! BM – Yup, so just as I figured, it’s probably wise to be subtle about it. Unless, of course, the ring is huge and you’re about to make a comment!

]]> By: BM http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/04/looking-at-ring-fingers-and-boobs.html/comment-page-1/#comment-572 BM Thu, 24 Apr 2008 18:06:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/04/looking-at-ring-fingers-and-boobs/#comment-572 I don't check for rings.. but I think if I did, one must be subtle, no reason to get your intentions misread (i.e jealous girlfriend who is staring at chick that just met her man and scoped his ring finger..) I don’t check for rings.. but I think if I did, one must be subtle, no reason to get your intentions misread (i.e jealous girlfriend who is staring at chick that just met her man and scoped his ring finger..)

]]> By: Ian Selvarajah http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/04/looking-at-ring-fingers-and-boobs.html/comment-page-1/#comment-571 Ian Selvarajah Thu, 24 Apr 2008 16:58:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/04/looking-at-ring-fingers-and-boobs/#comment-571 Dili - Lately, most of the boob comments I've heard have come from women (not men)!<br/><br/>It's not so much judging someone based on an external trait; I was more concerned with the perception of checking out someone's ring finger... :) Dili – Lately, most of the boob comments I’ve heard have come from women (not men)!

It’s not so much judging someone based on an external trait; I was more concerned with the perception of checking out someone’s ring finger… :)

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