Comments on: My First Lesbian Wedding Experience http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/05/my-first-lesbian-wedding-experience.html/ Making the world a happier place one blog post at a time... Mon, 01 Feb 2010 09:08:07 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Anonymous http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/05/my-first-lesbian-wedding-experience.html/comment-page-1/#comment-325 Anonymous Fri, 06 Jun 2008 22:55:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/05/my-first-lesbian-wedding-experience/#comment-325 Dude, if your future wife would not high five you, then I dont think that you should marry her :) Huggy //Selma Dude, if your future wife would not high five you, then I dont think that you should marry her :) Huggy //Selma

]]> By: Clayfisher http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/05/my-first-lesbian-wedding-experience.html/comment-page-1/#comment-324 Clayfisher Wed, 04 Jun 2008 13:17:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/05/my-first-lesbian-wedding-experience/#comment-324 OK, folks, one of the original High5ers, here to set ya'll (figuratively) straight. <br /><br /> It was my first lesbian wedding, too, and a mighty, mighty fine wedding it was (tho the photo is not us and to clarify, it was neither of us who asked Ian to donate sperm!). <br /><br /><b>The Stone Ceremony</b> (a Native American tradition): I don't know why others do it but for us, it honoured my Cherokee heritage as did the opening prayer and closing blessing. <br /><br /><b>The High Five</b>: We wrote our ceremony (full transcript available upon request!) and elected to reserve the right to offer whatever expression of affection moved us at the moment. I looked up, my wife (that's what I'm calling her now after calling her my partner as if we were in business together for the past 31 years) was High Fiving me. It seemed right. I High Fived back...and then we kissed...and kissed again (one for each)...and hugged...and were oblivious to much less concerned about being judged by the world. And now? We are forever transformed by the experience of (re)committing ourselves to each other and to our lives publicly in the presence of those we hold most dear and with the official sanction of our esteemed and treasured northern neighbor (and we were honoured and delighted to have you there, Ian, new shoes, shots and all!). <br /><br /><b>Doomed to fail?</b> What kind of a shitty world do you live in? <br /><br /><b>Older people still able to have fun?</b> Peeeeshhhaaaa. We heed the example and wisdom of our elders and add our special touch. <br /><br /><b>Shots:</b> Liquid Cocaine, tasty good fun...so are Buttery Nipples, Lemon Drops, Irish car Bomb...and the Drake bar tenders were beside themselves with glee that a group of Americans could hold the whole end of the bar back from the Canadians all night long without starting any fights (Cleveland Rocks!). <br /><br />Take a lesson, kids. <b>LIVE FREE, PROUD AND OUT LOUD</b>. OK, folks, one of the original High5ers, here to set ya’ll (figuratively) straight.

It was my first lesbian wedding, too, and a mighty, mighty fine wedding it was (tho the photo is not us and to clarify, it was neither of us who asked Ian to donate sperm!).

The Stone Ceremony (a Native American tradition): I don’t know why others do it but for us, it honoured my Cherokee heritage as did the opening prayer and closing blessing.

The High Five: We wrote our ceremony (full transcript available upon request!) and elected to reserve the right to offer whatever expression of affection moved us at the moment. I looked up, my wife (that’s what I’m calling her now after calling her my partner as if we were in business together for the past 31 years) was High Fiving me. It seemed right. I High Fived back…and then we kissed…and kissed again (one for each)…and hugged…and were oblivious to much less concerned about being judged by the world. And now? We are forever transformed by the experience of (re)committing ourselves to each other and to our lives publicly in the presence of those we hold most dear and with the official sanction of our esteemed and treasured northern neighbor (and we were honoured and delighted to have you there, Ian, new shoes, shots and all!).

Doomed to fail? What kind of a shitty world do you live in?

Older people still able to have fun? Peeeeshhhaaaa. We heed the example and wisdom of our elders and add our special touch.

Shots: Liquid Cocaine, tasty good fun…so are Buttery Nipples, Lemon Drops, Irish car Bomb…and the Drake bar tenders were beside themselves with glee that a group of Americans could hold the whole end of the bar back from the Canadians all night long without starting any fights (Cleveland Rocks!).

Take a lesson, kids. LIVE FREE, PROUD AND OUT LOUD.

]]> By: Ian Selvarajah http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/05/my-first-lesbian-wedding-experience.html/comment-page-1/#comment-322 Ian Selvarajah Thu, 29 May 2008 03:30:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/05/my-first-lesbian-wedding-experience/#comment-322 <b>Terry / Dr. Love</b> - Is that your new job title? :P <br/><br/>You're welcome about the liquid cocaine! ha ha Glad you enjoyed the blog!! :) Terry / Dr. Love – Is that your new job title? :P

You’re welcome about the liquid cocaine! ha ha Glad you enjoyed the blog!! :)

]]> By: Anonymous http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/05/my-first-lesbian-wedding-experience.html/comment-page-1/#comment-321 Anonymous Thu, 29 May 2008 01:09:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/05/my-first-lesbian-wedding-experience/#comment-321 Great blog,Ian. Thanks for introducing me to LiQuid Cocaine!<br/><br/>Dr. Love (Jenn's friend Terry) Great blog,Ian. Thanks for introducing me to LiQuid Cocaine!

Dr. Love (Jenn’s friend Terry)

]]> By: Ian Selvarajah http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/05/my-first-lesbian-wedding-experience.html/comment-page-1/#comment-306 Ian Selvarajah Thu, 08 May 2008 13:00:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/05/my-first-lesbian-wedding-experience/#comment-306 <b>Scrump</b> - RSA...got it. :) Yup, the rocks are definitely a modern new age tradition (if there is such a thing as "modern tradition"?)<br/><br/><br/><br/><br/><br/><br/><br/><b>£15 - A story</b> - I don't believe there would have been a negative reaction had they kissed. Actually, they're not <i>"doomed to fail"</i> at all. They've been together for the last 30 years!!<br/><br/>Great blog, by the way! I've just started reading through it and I like what I see so far! Scrump – RSA…got it. :) Yup, the rocks are definitely a modern new age tradition (if there is such a thing as “modern tradition”?)

£15 – A story – I don’t believe there would have been a negative reaction had they kissed. Actually, they’re not “doomed to fail” at all. They’ve been together for the last 30 years!!

Great blog, by the way! I’ve just started reading through it and I like what I see so far!

]]> By: £15 - A story http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/05/my-first-lesbian-wedding-experience.html/comment-page-1/#comment-305 £15 - A story Thu, 08 May 2008 08:38:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/05/my-first-lesbian-wedding-experience/#comment-305 If they actually kissed, what would the reaction be?<br/><br/>Didn't they kiss because they were already doomed to fail due to society judging them? If they actually kissed, what would the reaction be?

Didn’t they kiss because they were already doomed to fail due to society judging them?

]]> By: Scrumpulicious http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/05/my-first-lesbian-wedding-experience.html/comment-page-1/#comment-602 Scrumpulicious Thu, 08 May 2008 08:15:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/05/my-first-lesbian-wedding-experience/#comment-602 RSA - what Angel said - Republic of South Africa. I think the rocks might be a new age type thing..<br/><br/>And I don't like to think of my cousin thinking in that way - he's lil'! But once over the initial surprise, I think he was pleasantly surprised. Even more so considering at the reception, most of their friends were lesbian couples as well! :) RSA – what Angel said – Republic of South Africa. I think the rocks might be a new age type thing..

And I don’t like to think of my cousin thinking in that way – he’s lil’! But once over the initial surprise, I think he was pleasantly surprised. Even more so considering at the reception, most of their friends were lesbian couples as well! :)

]]> By: Ian Selvarajah http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/05/my-first-lesbian-wedding-experience.html/comment-page-1/#comment-601 Ian Selvarajah Thu, 08 May 2008 02:33:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/05/my-first-lesbian-wedding-experience/#comment-601 <b>Darwin</b> - Well, it's a belief system like anything else and I respect that! :) Darwin – Well, it’s a belief system like anything else and I respect that! :)

]]> By: Darwin http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/05/my-first-lesbian-wedding-experience.html/comment-page-1/#comment-600 Darwin Wed, 07 May 2008 22:17:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/05/my-first-lesbian-wedding-experience/#comment-600 Hah sounds like a fun event, borat-hi-fives and all :) But dude, rocks? WTF?!!! Hah sounds like a fun event, borat-hi-fives and all :) But dude, rocks? WTF?!!!

]]> By: Ian Selvarajah http://ianselvarajah.com/2008/05/my-first-lesbian-wedding-experience.html/comment-page-1/#comment-599 Ian Selvarajah Wed, 07 May 2008 19:22:00 +0000 http://ianselvarajah.com/changinglives/2008/05/my-first-lesbian-wedding-experience/#comment-599 <b>Angel</b> - Yes, I thought the pic was quite nice as well! <br/><br/>Oral sex is illegal in Sri Lanka!?!? You're kidding... I wonder what the charge and punishment is for that?<br/><br/><br/><br/><br/><br/><br/><br/><b>T</b> - Ha ha, yup, those were the days! I still remember that night when we lined up like 5 shots each and still didn't feel anything. That was when I slowed down on the drinking! :)<br/><br/>Oh yes, older people can still have fun, they just have to leave their house sometimes!!! :P Angel – Yes, I thought the pic was quite nice as well!

Oral sex is illegal in Sri Lanka!?!? You’re kidding… I wonder what the charge and punishment is for that?

T – Ha ha, yup, those were the days! I still remember that night when we lined up like 5 shots each and still didn’t feel anything. That was when I slowed down on the drinking! :)

Oh yes, older people can still have fun, they just have to leave their house sometimes!!! :P

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