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		<title>What you resist will persist</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 09 Dec 2009 04:35:59 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ian Selvarajah</dc:creator>
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<p style="text-align: center;">I like charts.</p>
<p>As I migrated the blog over, I couldn&#8217;t help but notice the decline in the frequency of my posts over the last couple of years. Then, I saw a pattern. Since March &#8217;07 I&#8217;ve been tracking the relative progress of a particular situation in my life on a monthly [...]]]></description>
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<p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://ianselvarajah.com/2007/03/malefemale-relationship-age-difference.html/">I like charts</a>.</p>
<p>As I migrated the blog over, I couldn&#8217;t help but notice the decline in the frequency of my posts over the last couple of years. Then, I saw a pattern. Since March &#8217;07 I&#8217;ve been tracking the relative progress of a particular situation in my life on a monthly basis. Unfortunately, as you can see, that situation (the blue line) hasn&#8217;t been going well. The interesting thing, is when I superimpose the number of blog posts per month (the green line) on that chart, you notice the obvious correlation.</p>
<p>Back in October &#8217;07, I wrote a &#8220;<a href="http://ianselvarajah.com/2007/10/why-i-havent-been-blogging.html/">Why I haven&#8217;t been blogging</a>&#8221; post and the #1 reason has (roughly) held true over the last 2 years. This chart makes it even more obvious that even after trying to remediate the situation, I continued to let it affect my general happiness which has been <strong>my biggest mistake all along</strong>.</p>
<p>The more I tried to fix the situation, the worse it seemed to get. At the beginning of October, I realized I had to let go. Letting go is really hard to do, especially when it&#8217;s something important. Letting go is tough because it almost feels like giving up and <strong>I hate to give up</strong>.</p>
<p>I was reminded of a quote one of my mentors shared with me: <em>&#8220;<strong>What you resist will persist.</strong>&#8220;</em> Although much of the situation was out of my control, I got the sinking feeling that I was partially to blame as <strong>I didn&#8217;t expect it to improve</strong>. The amazing thing is that as soon as I let go, things have almost <strong>immediately started picking up</strong>. I&#8217;m not stressed, I&#8217;m not bothered, I&#8217;m not even tracking the blue line anymore!</p>
<h2>Lessons learned?</h2>
<p>If you&#8217;re going through a rough patch or things aren&#8217;t working the way you want/expect, you need to focus on something else; something positive. <strong>Stop focusing on what&#8217;s going wrong</strong>: the more you focus on the negative, the more negative you&#8217;ll attract. I&#8217;ve always been an extremely positive person and have generally attracted positive things, so this has definitely been an eye opening experience for me! Over the last 2 months, I&#8217;ve been attracting a lot of good things, so let&#8217;s hope this keeps up!!</p>
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		<title>&#8230; and we&#039;re back!</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 07 Dec 2009 04:54:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ian Selvarajah</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Blogging]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[<p>If you&#8217;re here for the first time, welcome! If you&#8217;ve arrived from my old blog, welcome back and I&#8217;d love to hear your feedback on the new design/layout/concept (or anything else you feel like telling me)!</p>
<p>I&#8217;m hoping this blog will have a little more focus than the last one, but don&#8217;t worry, you&#8217;ll still be [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>If you&#8217;re here for the first time, welcome! If you&#8217;ve arrived from my old blog, welcome back and I&#8217;d love to hear your feedback on the new design/layout/concept (or anything else you feel like telling me)!</p>
<p>I&#8217;m hoping this blog will have a little more focus than the last one, but don&#8217;t worry, you&#8217;ll still be getting a good dose of my random stories! <img src='http://ianselvarajah.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>Cheers!</p>
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